“Where Memories Meet is a poignant and personal story that is an informative and absorbing read from beginning to end.” Midwest Book Review
Author Christine Grote’s memoir of losing her father to Alzheimer’s,interwoven with her father Jerry’s narration of his life, is two stories in one book. Grote invites us into her parents’ home where accommodations are continually made for her father as he loses his memory, judgment, and mobility to Alzheimer’s. She allows us into her heart as she struggles to accept and live with the loss of her father,often repressing her own memories of the man she once relied onto cope with the challenges posed by the man he was becoming.
This is one daughter’s story of re-finding or reclaiming, through not only her own but also her father’s memories, the loved one she lost along their Alzheimer’s journey.
“Where Memories Meet” is a dive into two intimate tellings of life. Grote sugar coats nothing and gives much needed insight into what Alzheimer’s really does to an entire family.
The two stories help keep the book from being hopeless. It gives life to the man her father really is instead of what his disease has made him into. I really like that Grote didn’t soften her father’s language when writing his side. It added authenticity to his stories and helped build him inside my head as I read. I grew quite fond of him by the middle of the book. Every time there was a perspective switch my head thumped a bit at all this man had lost.
Grote’s love and admiration for her father shines bright through the gloom of struggle. How lucky he was to have a family who loved him so deeply.
Grote discusses something in the book that really resonated with me. My Grandfather-in-law is suffering from Alzheimer’s and while I’m not close to him I hate to see him suffer. Grote discusses how every now and then your loved one will resurface from the fog of Alzheimer’s and the struggle one undergoes when they do. You see, when they come back for that short time, hope blossoms inside you and you can’t help but start to feel like your getting them back. All too soon it’s over and they are lost again. It’s an ever changing situation that gives the family no time to acclimate.
I can’t imagine how hard this book was to write. I truly hope it helped to heal Mrs Grote’s loss in some way. I would like to thank her for sharing her families experience’s as well as giving the world the opportunity to know her amazing father. My thoughts are with her.
If you have a loved one suffering from this terrible disease, please pick up this book. I think that it will help you feel less alone and maybe give you some insight into this disease.
The Technical Data:
Title: Where Memories Meet | Series: N/A | Author(s): Christine M. Grote |Publisher: Grote Ink, LLC / Publication Date: 9-24-2015 |Pages: 310 (Print) | ISBN: 978-0983819820 |Genre(s): Non-Fiction / Memoir |Language: English |Rating: 5 out of 5 | Date Read: 12-1-2016 |Source: Copy from author.
Christine M. Grote earned a bachelor’s degree in Chemical Engineering from the University of Dayton, Ohio, in 1979. After working for several years in product development at Procter and Gamble in Cincinnati, Ohio, she became a full-time homemaker as she raised three sons and a daughter. In 1999, Christine returned to school at the Mount St. Joseph University in Cincinnati, Ohio, earning a bachelor’s degree in English with a minor in Written Communications in 2007.
Christine lives in Cincinnati, Ohio with her husband and their dog Arthur.